“I Can Love Me Better”: Miley Cyrus’ “Flowers” is the Anthem of the Self-Care Era.

Katie Naughton

We all know the lyrics to Miley’s catchy Flowerschorus (from hearing it approximately 147 times a day online, or, if you’re like me, having it on repeat for two weeks straight). But, if you’ve been living under a rock…

“I can buy myself flowers / Write my name in the sand / Talk to myself for hours / Say things you don’t understand / I can take myself dancing / And I can hold my own hand / Yeah I can love me better than you can”. 

Now, this isn’t just for the broken-hearted. It’s actually the opposite. Flowerstakes listeners on a journey of self-empowerment, and advocates the importance of self-love and female independence, that yes, you really can buy yourself flowers. Besides the song’s deep meaning, its immersive groovy disco sound is a head-bopper, no matter what your relationship status is. 

Cyrus’ lyrics coincide with social media’s current self-care movement. Countless women are creating popular videos of ‘solo dates’ and ‘self-care days’. These wholesome clips digitally portray the push to prioritise mental health. Scroll through TikTok and you’ll find videos of yoga sessions, burning candles, brewing coffee, and beauty products epitomising self-care. Not surprisingly, Flowers”, with its fitting sentiment, often accompanies these videos.

Flowerssoared to number one in fourteen countries within just two weeks, proving its resonance for so many globally. On 30th January, in a social media post, Cyrus perfectly summarised that “this record is connecting in such a positive way”, acknowledging its popularity and feel-good factor.

Though Flowers oozes positivity, the last few years have been like no other for Cyrus. Highs of successful records, iconic collaborations, and a jaw-dropping Glastonbury set, occurred alongside a public low, when Cyrus and her ex-husband, Liam Hemsworth, divorced in 2019. 

Cyrus’ music is reflectively soul-baring and expresses all the emotions of a marriage breakdown. Listen to Cyrus’ discography and you’ll discover an emotional arc, a beautiful, cathartic process of hurt and healing – all evident in songs since 2019.

An older, divorce-inspired track is Prisoner”, from November 2020. Encoded with emotions, the song navigates life a year into divorce, and the rawness of the relationship’s remnants is clear. Cyrus includes the exasperated lines:

“Can’t get you off my mind”

“I tasted heaven, now I can’t live without it / I can’t forget you and your love is the loudest”. 

Prisoner crescendos with Cyrus belting “why can’t you just let me go”, encapsulating the debilitating frustrations of a soured relationship, post-divorce. 

Time is the ultimate healer for Cyrus. Nearly four years on, Flowersfeels like the turning point of this emotional arc, with an almighty shift from previous lyrical anger. Its press release confirmed Cyrus’ personal development, stating that Flowers is a “reflection of the strength she’s found in focusing on both her physical and mental well-being”.

It seems that Cyrus is finally at peace with the past. Most importantly, she’s healing herself. Perhaps we can all learn to hold our own hand, and maybe make a TikTok about it too. 

Image Credit: YouTube, Miley Cyrus Flowersmusic video

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